Work Life Balance

I think I knew what kind of mom I wanted to be since I was young. When I was in form 4, my dad bought me a book about women doctors reflections on work and life. He knew I was enamored by the "surgeon" title. 

So I read the book and it changed my mind 100%. I stopped wanting to be a doctor because that wasn't the life I wanted for my future children. For the high ambitions that I had in that moment, a life of balance is not in the cards based on what I read. I mean, coming back home at night? NO WAY MAN. 

But again, I was 16 at the time. I made up my mind based on what little information I had. But I finished that book. (Can't believe how much of a bookworm I was. 1 book each week.) 

When I was younger, I said to myself, I'm NEVER going to be like my mom. I'm never going to be a stay at home mom. 

I'm going to have my own thing.

I'm going to be successful. 

Well having my own kids changed my perspective again. I started seeing my mom through the eyes of my kid self. I felt safe and mom's always home. I never knew what danger was. I was quite emotionally safe. I ate home cooked food (such a blessing), mom picked me up from school. 

When the two realities meet, I became hybrid. I think my kids have the best of both worlds. I send them to school every morning. There are times that I can't be there because of work but they usually see me. 

I've started cooking a whole lot more, because of that health awakening and I'd like my kids to have a good head start.

I involve them in everything that I do, from running, to real estate. 

Yeah I have boundaries when it comes to work. When my kids need me I'd cancel everything. The virtue of working by myself. 

No 1 is always family. No 2 is work.